#036: How Love Changes Your Brain With Jesse Lawler

Human-Beings do stupid things in order to get money for drugs.
They do the same to win their ex-partner back. - Jesse
Lawler


Jesse Lawler is an entrepreneur, filmmaker, cyclist, podcaster
and a really nerdy self-optimizer. Jesse hosts the very
successful Smart Drug Smarts Podcast (LINK), he also is the
co-founder of the Nootropics-Company Axon Labs and the founder of
the mobile app Evil Genius Technologies. A real jack of all
trades, Jesse has also dabbled in Hollywood-screenwriting, travel
photography and coding software for breweries before finding his
current calling.


Jesse and I met at the Biohacker Summit in Helsinki (LINK) where
we both spoke and then spent an entire weekend on a Finnish-style
Biohacking adventure with fellow biohackers Teemu Arina, Ben
Greenfield, Dr. Rhonda Patrick and several others going from
smoke saunas to icy rivers to camping in the woods (more info on
this transcendental trip in the episode). We’ve remained friends
ever since and I am very excited to present to you this highly
entertatining neuro-hacking mastermind from the other side of the
Atlantic.


Notice to all smart drug fans: Jesse’s website is full of
information of pretty much any nootropic you’ve heard of. On the
site, you can also find my favorite episodes of the Smart Drug
Smarts Podcast so make sure to check it out!


In this episode, you’ll learn how our brain behaves when we fall
for another person. Love love love!


Enjoy!


SHOW NOTES


2:30 - Why Jesse wants a floating tank in his basement


6:30 - Why love and relationships have become tougher nowadays


12:30 - About your hormonal changes when you fall in love


23:00 - The effects of sperm and seminal fluid on the woman


26:00 - What happens after the honeymoon phase


29:30 - About the withdrawal symptoms after breaking up


34:00 - How Jesse would get over a breakup today


39:00 - About indicators for successful relationships


41:30 - On epigenetics and innate fears


43:30 - The influence of porn on our brains


51:00 - Environmental factors which influence our perspective on
relationships


54:00 - Why it makes sense to study the biochemistry of love


 


QUOTES


Love and learning belong together.

Adolescents today have their first sexual experiences with
their computers.

Once we don’t have to learn more about our partner, dopamine
production drops.

Listen to your friends when it comes to your relationship.

Withdrawal after drug use and breaking up are very similar.