081-Learning to fail - Buddhism in daily life

Learning to fail


Those who can fail find inner strength. In psychology, a good
ability to fail is called resilience. Here, mental health is
maintained to such an extent that even in the case of serious or
stressful events, the person concerned can cope well with the
situation, has the ability not to lose mental balance.


And this resilience can be learned, of course it is also partly
hereditary, but it can be trained quite easily. People can be
divided into two groups here, namely those who are naturally
quite hearty, easily coping with difficulties, and then the other
group, who are much more sensitive, who can be upset by stress
and lose their cool at any time.


The foundation for a positive worldview is laid in childhood, and
the ability to fail is a cornerstone that will be learned in a
healthy home. And even in later life it is important to have a
healthy environment, normal caregivers who will stand by you even
in times of stress and problems. Those who have an environment
that believes in them are already far ahead.


To learn to fail, one must expose oneself to situations in which
one then acquires security. Those who know in advance that they
will fail can face it calmly. And whoever repeatedly puts himself
in such situations in which he will fail, can then calmly await
the things that may come even in the situations in which he has
not planned to fail. In this way, one promotes the building of
problem solving skills and is adequately prepared for future
stressful situations.


In other words, you should push the limits of resilience further
and further, and then you will no longer feel any limits. This
way they will cope well in all situations of life, they will get
a normal resilience, the stresses of life will not really reach
them anymore.


People who have not learned to fail in their youth, they always
have a hard time in real life, sometimes from the lack of
self-confidence then comes mental illness, depression and other
disorder of mental activity. Of course, the training of
resilience cannot be extended indefinitely, there comes a moment
when simply medical advice can help.


The followers of Buddha know that with mindfulness and simple
exercises one can train conscious awareness and thus regain one's
inner balance. Such inner strength can be trained, so that one
can achieve protection from the disturbance of mental activities.
According to Buddha, nothing is what it seems at first anyway.





The secret of the extraordinary man is in most cases nothing but
the consequence


- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before
the year zero





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