047-Self love part 1 - Buddhism in daily life

Self-doubt is widespread, even self-hatred is becoming more and
more prevalent in all classes, people don't have it easy, these
are "hard" times.


Of course, you have to look at yourself critically, but peace
with your own self is also Buddhist, Buddha taught that we should
not harm any living being, including ourselves. You don't have to
love yourself, but at least accept yourself as you are, at least
find yourself okay.


All people make mistakes, but to make your life difficult because
of that, that doesn't have to be. And of course it is part of our
life to question ourselves again and again, also to respond to
criticism from third parties.


But where is the border between "self-reflection" and
"self-hatred", what is still healthy, what goes too far? You can
at least learn to accept yourself, various exercises are on the
market. I present you the most important approaches to make peace
with your "I" with instructions. Are you ready to try something
new?


First of all, if you can't love yourself, you probably hear the
little voice that constantly criticizes you, tells you that you
do everything wrong, are not worth anything, just do stupid
things, and have no idea at all.


This voice is a central theme in Buddhism, because this mood is
followed by judgment (I am stupid) and will (I want this or
that), which is why this voice embodies the ego and should be
silenced, which of course does not always work. So you have to
come to terms (at least for now) with the voice, accept the
little man in your ear, find a passable way of dealing with the
matter.


Write down what's going on in your mind palace, what thoughts
come up, and most importantly, when. What happened, why is this
thought coming up right now, what are the connections? Start to
get into a dialogue with this voice, accept the voice as your own
ego, feel the criticism not as punishment, but as a chance to
grow.


Start to see your ego (in a first step) as a "little friend" that
makes you aware of some things, consciously enter into a
conversation with the ego, not into a confrontation.


You must not avoid this kind of self-talk, accepting the
situation is the "real" first point to more self-love. However,
don't let your own ego wrap you around its little finger.


Read more about this topic in the next few days in "Self-love
part 2".


The way is the goal!





Hate is not defeated by hate, but by love


- Buddha - honorary name of Siddharta Gautama - 560 to 480 before
the year zero





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