#16 LiebesLust: Free Yourself By Freeing Your Partner - When it comes to sex with others in our Free Relationship

In this episode my partner Carlos de la Fuente and me, Natalie
Reichel, we are sharing with you our processes when it came to
having the first time sex with someone else while we are in our
so called "Free Relationship".️


How it affected everyone of us and how different we did react
towards the trigger. We both see our relationship as a vehicle to
learn and grow together but also everyone of us by its own. So
instead of running away from what might shows up if "IT" happens,
we are facing our fears and we are willing to see what shows up
from the deepest within our shadow-worlds, when the partner goes
intimate with someone else. Jealuosy, pain, fear of loosing or
even panic in my case, anger and frustration, helplessness - all
these feelings are showing us, where we still have to heal some
self-worth and trust issues, coming from the earliest childhood
experiences. Those issues and their deepest roots are indeed not
easy to access - but with our Free Relationship we found a tool
for reaching those deep wounds. ️‍🩹


Sure, it is not easy for both of us. You will might even hear the
impact of the survival mode (which I have been going through the
last couple of days) still in my voice in this episode. But being
able to make the experience that your partner still loves you
(maybe even more or in a deeper way) after he or she had sex with
someone else, is defenitely worth it. It's priceless, really -
and I am so grateful of what I am learning here through this
alternative type of relationship. And how much I can heal myself
through it.


May this episode shows you that it is totally OK if you're hurt
and may act like you are not you anymore. That it is ok when
triggers in your relationship (if it's monogamous or not, it
doesn't matter...) bring out the darkest aspects of yourself and
you turn into a wounded monster, just trying to survive. All that
really matters is whether you and your partner can accept and
accept the dark days of your relationship, HOW you deal with them
and WHETHER you learn from them in the long term.


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